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A Summary of General Manners of Living |
[Some of
the lessons learnt from Quran that apply to our general
living]
1.
Respect and honour all human beings irrespective of their
religion, colour, race, sex, language, status, property,
birth, profession/job and so on [17/70]
2. Talk
straight, to the point, without any ambiguity or deception
[33/70]
3. Choose
best words to speak and say them in the best possible way
[17/53, 2/83]
4. Do not
shout. Speak politely keeping your voice low. [31/19]
5. Always
speak the truth. Shun words that are deceitful and
ostentatious [22/30]
6. Do not
confound truth with falsehood [2/42]
7. Say
with your mouth what is in your heart [3/167]
8. Speak
in a civilised manner in a language that is recognised by
the society and is commonly used [4/5]
9. When
you voice an opinion, be just, even if it is against a
relative [6/152]
10. Do
not be a bragging boaster [31/18]
11. Do
not talk, listen or do anything vain [23/3, 28/55]
12. Do
not participate in any paltry. If you pass near a futile
play, then pass by with dignity [25/72]
13. Do
not verge upon any immodesty or lewdness whether
surreptitious or overt [6/151].
14. If,
unintentionally, any misconduct occurs by you, then correct
yourself expeditiously [3/134].
15. Do
not be contemptuous or arrogant with people [31/18]
16. Do
not walk haughtily or with conceit [17/37, 31/18]
17. Be
moderate in thy pace [31/19]
18. Walk
with humility and sedateness [25/63]
19. Keep
your gazes lowered devoid of any lecherous leers and
salacious stares [24/30-31, 40/19].
20. If
you do not have complete knowledge about anything, better
keep your mouth shut. You might think that speaking about
something without full knowledge is a trivial matter. But it
might have grave consequences [24/15-16]
21. When
you hear something malicious about someone, keep a
favourable view about him/her until you attain full
knowledge about the matter. Consider others innocent until
they are proven guilty with solid and truthful evidence
[24/12-13]
22.
Ascertain the truth of any news, lest you smite someone in
ignorance and afterwards repent of what you did [49/6]
23. Do
not follow blindly any information of which you have no
direct knowledge. (Using your faculties of perception and
conception) you must verify it for yourself. In the Court of
your Lord, you will be held accountable for your hearing,
sight, and the faculty of reasoning [17/36].
24. Never
think that you have reached the final stage of knowledge and
nobody knows more than yourself. Remember! Above everyone
endowed with knowledge is another endowed with more
knowledge [12/76]. Even the Prophet [p.b.u.h] was asked to
keep praying, "O My sustainer! Advance me in knowledge."
[20:114]
25. The
believers are but a single Brotherhood. Live like members of
one family, brothers and sisters unto one another [49/10].
26. Do
not make mockery of others or ridicule others [49/11]
27. Do
not defame others [49/11]
28. Do
not insult others by nicknames [49/11]
29. Avoid
suspicion and guesswork. Suspicion and guesswork might
deplete your communal energy [49/12]
30. Spy
not upon one another [49/12]
31. Do
not backbite one another [49/12]
32. When
you meet each other, offer good wishes and blessings for
safety. One who conveys to you a message of safety and
security and also when a courteous greeting is offered to
you, meet it with a greeting still more courteous or (at
least) of equal courtesy [4/86]
33. When
you enter your own home or the home of somebody else,
compliment the inmates [24/61]
34. Do
not enter houses other than your own until you have sought
permission; and then greet the inmates and wish them a life
of blessing, purity and pleasure [24/27]
35. Treat
kindly
-Your parents
-Relatives
-The orphans
-And those who have been left alone in the society [4/36]
36. Take
care of
-The needy,
-The disabled
-Those whose hard earned income is insufficient to meet
their needs
-And those whose businesses have stalled
-And those who have lost their jobs. [4/36]
37. Treat
kindly
-Your related neighbours, and unrelated neighbours
-Companions by your side in public gatherings, or public
transportation. [4/36]
38. Be
generous to the needy wayfarer, the homeless son of the
street, and the one who reaches you in a destitute condition
[4/36]
39. Be
nice to people who work under your care. [4/36]
40. Do
not follow up what you have given to others to afflict them
with reminders of your generosity [2/262].
41. Do
not expect a return for your good behaviour, not even thanks
[76/9]
42.
Cooperate with one another in good deeds and do not
cooperate with others in evil and bad matters [5/2]
43. Do no
try to impress people on account of self-proclaimed virtues
[53/32]
44. You
should enjoin right conduct on others but mend your own ways
first. Actions speak louder than words. You must first
practice good deeds yourself, then preach [2/44]
45.
Correct yourself and your families first [before trying to
correct others] [66/6]
46.
Pardon gracefully if anyone among you who commits a bad deed
out of ignorance, and then repents and amends [6/54, 3/134]
47.
Divert and sublimate your anger and potentially virulent
emotions to creative energy, and become a source of
tranquillity and comfort to people [3/134]
48. Call
people to the Way of your Lord with wisdom and beautiful
exhortation. Reason with them most decently [16/125]
49. Leave
to themselves those who do not give any importance to the
Divine code and have adopted and consider it as mere play
and amusement [6/70]
50. Sit
not in the company of those who ridicule Divine Law unless
they engage in some other conversation [4/140]
51. Do
not be jealous of those who are blessed [4/54]
52. In
your collective life, make rooms for others [58/11]
53. When
invited to dine, Go at the appointed time. Do not arrive too
early to wait for the preparation of meal or linger after
eating to engage in bootless babble. Such things may cause
inconvenience to the host [33/53]
54. Eat
and drink [what is lawful] in moderation [7/31].
55. Do
not squander your wealth senselessly [17/26]
56.
Fulfil your promises and commitments [17/34]
57. Keep
yourself clean, pure [9/108, 4/43, 5/6].
58.
Dress-up in agreeable attire and adorn yourself with
exquisite character from inside out [7/26]
59. Seek
your provision only by fair endeavour [29/17, 2/188]
60. Do not
devour the wealth and property of others unjustly, nor bribe
the officials or the judges to deprive others of their
possessions [2/188]
Note: The
above points are some of the lessons learnt from Quran that
apply to our general living. In the end, the verses of Quran
from which the lesson is drawn is given. The points above
may not be word by word translations of Quranic verses.
12/11/2004 |